INSIDE MY MIND WITH ZIL

“You always blame me for what happened”; “Why am I always responsible for anything that goes wrong?”

If this is what something you keep telling or wondering, chances are you are the one blaming yourself rather than others around you. You need to recognize the pattern of automatically holding yourself responsible for everything around you.

Let it go. Even if you think you are responsible. Forgive yourself before you forgive others. Realize that it is not you who decides how things go – not just in your life, but in everyone’s life. So if something went wrong, accept it. This is life. Not everything goes right all the time. Moreover, right and wrong are just perspectives.

Even if someone tells you, you are responsible, realize that they are just projecting their hurt on you – which you do not have to take! Don’t be a sponge! Don’t soak in everyone’s emotional shit. Recognize that the other person is going through some hard time and is having a difficult time keeping his emotions in check. Don’t take it in.

Stop victimizing yourself. You are strong. Stop always telling – “why do bad things happen to me?” or “why don’t things move for me?” It is this attitude that makes things seem worse. Just enjoy where you are now. Realize that nothing stays forever. Count your blessings. Do something new. Go out. have fun. Remember it’s never too late. Age is just a number!